I am not too comfortable with the notion of
"rationing praise/love/appreciation".
But I do agree that kids need to be constantly reminded of certain musts.
For instance I make sure I "suggest/advice' my child to avoid "ego-plugs' in any relationship.
They create vacuum and thus lead to the emergence of bitterness and undue expectations.
I am 24*7 onto the importance and relevance of being "gentle,kind and tolerant".
I genuinely believe,people sans bitterness are universally useful and deserving lots who enrich the World with their existence.
People living a selfish life,driven by "self-goals" and "personal motivations" are not more than "lessons" .
We most certainly can't afford too many of them,in an already raging and instigated World.
We need calmer,more level headed and receptive individuals.
And we create them within the four walls of our sheltered and protected abodes.
I do agree,that the outside forces,peer pressure and "influences" exist,which can be "otherwise" and not so helpful.
But we need to "up" our acts to make sure,that impact of our gentle reminders is far more potent.
It is a moment to moment battle,
yet perfectly doable.
No,I am not a perfect mother,by any standards whatsoever,
but I am "at it"...every living moment of mine,
always wakeful and never complacent.
And I don't believe in giving up or giving in.
I may not "dictate' but I "express'...
be it my "pride in choices made" or my "difference of opinion".
And I stay "involved".
Though I make sure I NEVER "interfere'.
Cause one has to understand,
we are bringing up "individuals' and not "wax dolls".
We owe it to them,we owe it to the World we get so much from :)
